Dilemma

Album

On the Radio - Greatest Hits Volumes I & II

Label

Fo' Reel

Genre

Rhythm & Blues

Composer(s)

Nelly;Antoine "Bam" Macon;Ryan Bowser;Kenneth Gamble;Bunny Sigler

Entered Chart

Jul 13, 2002

Peak Date

Aug 17, 2002

Released

June 25, 2002

Recorded

Unknown

Catalog #

Fo' Reel 19509 Universal

B-Side

"Kings Highway"

Featuring Kelly Rowland from Destiny's Child, this song is about a girl who thinks about another guy even when she's with her boyfriend (thus the "Dilemma"). Nelly and Kelly act this out in the video, but also in the song, as they sing to each other by name. This was the first big release for Kelly Rowland away from her group, Destiny's Child. Nelly was an established star and hot on the charts, but Rowland was not widely known on her own. "Dilemma" was a good (and very safe) way to introduce her as a solo artist and get her ready for her first album. The song appeared on both Nelly's album Nellyville and on Roland's debut solo album, Simply Deep. The chorus is based on Patti LaBelle's 1983 song, "Love, Need And Want You." LaBelle also shows up in the video, playing Rowland's disapproving mother. Nelly heard a tune written by his friend Bam (Antoine Macon), and wanted to include it on his album. Bam recalls: "We sat down at the keyboard and just messed around. Then we added some drums and Nelly began to write some words." It was almost finished when Bam put on the Patti LaBelle album I'm In Love Again and started humming one of the tracks, "Love, Need And Want You." Nelly was not familiar with the song but liked it and insisted they use the "I love you" hook. When Nelly heard the finished track, he said, "I wanted to do something that nobody would think of, and that's why I bought in Kelly Rowland. I thought she would be better on her own as opposed to Destiny's Child." (Quotes from 1000 UK #1 Hits by Jon Kutner and Spencer Leigh.) The song and video prompted rumors that Nelly and Kelly were dating. They maintained that they were simply good friends. Report this ad This was the first big solo hit for any Destiny's Child member. Michelle Williams was the first to release a solo album, which appeared in April 2002. Rowland's "Simply Deep" followed in October, but "Dilemma" was released earlier, landing at #1 US in August. Beyoncé did a single for the Austin Powers in Goldmember soundtrack in 2002 before releasing her first solo album, Dangerously in Love, the next year. It was a dazzling debut, featuring the #1 "Crazy In Love," a collaboration with her boyfriend, Jay-Z. Five writers are credited on this track: Nelly, the song's producers Ryan Bowser and Antoine "Bam" Macon, and the guys who wrote the sampled track "Love, Need And Want You": Kenny Gamble and Bunny Sigler. At the 2003 Grammy Awards, Nelly performed his hit "Hot In Herre," and was then joined by Rowland, who sang this with him. This won the award for Best Rap/Sung Collaboration. It was nominated for Record of the Year, but lost to "Don't Know Why" by Norah Jones. This spent 10 weeks at the top of the American chart in two runs. It paused for a couple of weeks to allow in recent American Idol winner Kelly Clarkson's "A Moment Like This." The duo recorded an update of this song titled "Gone," which was a track on Nelly's 2010 album, 5.0. Nelly recalled collaborating with Kelly Rowland on this song in a 2010 interview with XXL magazine: "I did the Nellyville album in Miami, recorded the songs and all that [short pause] and we kind of felt like we needed a couple more songs on there. So, the last two songs that we put on Nellyville were 'Hot In Herre' and 'Dilemma.' At this time we had been on tour with the girls from Destiny's Child so we had become, fairly close to the girls and all that and I was like, 'What do you think about Kelly?' but at this time she was dating someone very close to me, I should say that, and we was like, 'Yo, fam, this would hot.' So you know we got her in the studio and s--t was magic." On the Hot 100 dated August 17, 2002, "Dilemma" replaced "Hot in Herre" at #1, making Nelly the fifth artist in that chart's history to succeed himself in pole position, following The Beatles, Boyz II Men, Puff Daddy and Ja Rule.

I love you and I need you
Nelly, I love you
I do need you

No matter what I do (woo)
All I think about is you (uh huh)
Even when I'm with my boo
Boy, you know I'm crazy over you

No matter what I do
All I think about is you
Even when I'm with my boo
You know I'm crazy over you (uh, uh, uh, uh)

I met this chick and she just moved right up the block from me and uh
She got the hots for me, the finest thing my hood done seen
But oh, no, oh, no
She got a man and a son though (check it)
But that's okay 'cause I
Wait for my cue and just listen, play my position like a shortstop
Pick up everything mami hittin'
And in no time (no time)
I'm gonna make this one here mine
And that's for sure 'cause I
I never been the type to break up a happy home, but uh
There's somethin' 'bout baby girl I just can't leave alone
So tell me, Ma, what's it gonna be? She said

You don't know what you mean to me (come on)

No matter what I do (woo)
All I think about is you (uh huh)
Even when I'm with my boo
Boy, you know I'm crazy over you
No matter what I do
All I think about is you
Even when I'm with my boo
You know I'm crazy over you

I see a lot and you look and I never say a word
I know how niggas start actin' trippin' out here about they girls
And there's no way
Nelly gon' fight over no dame (I ain't fighting' over no dame)
As you can see, but I
I like your steez, your style, your whole demeanor
The way you come through and holla and swoop me in his two-seater
Now that's gangsta
And I got special ways to thank ya
Don't you forget it, but uh
It ain't that easy for you to pack and leave him, but uh
You and dirty got ties for different reasons
I respect that and right before I turn to leave, she said (she said, she said, she said)

You don't know what you mean to me (come on)

No matter what I do (woo)
All I think about is you
Even when I'm with my boo (yeah)
Boy, you know I'm crazy over you (put your hands up)
No matter what I do (put your hands up)
All I think about is you (yeah)
Even when I'm with my boo
You know I'm crazy over you

Sing it for me, K

And I love you (word?)
And I need you (uh)
Nelly, I love you (uh)
I do (come on, girl)
And it's more than you'll ever know
Boy, it's for sure
You can always count on my love (uh)
Forever more, yeah, yeah

East coast, I know you shakin' right (uh huh)
Down South, I know you bouncin' right (ay hey)
West coast, I know you walkin' right, 'cause (uh, uh, uh, uh)
You don't know what you mean to me (Midwest, I see you swingin' right)

No matter what I do (yeah)
All I think about is you (uh uh)
Even when I'm with my boo
Boy, you know I'm crazy over you (uh, uh, uh, yeah)
No matter what I do (yeah)
All I think about is you
Even when I'm with my boo (check it, check it, check it)
You know I'm crazy over you (check it, check it, check it)

East coast, I know you shakin' right (uh-uh)
Down South, I know you bouncin' right (uh-uh)
West coast, I know you walkin' right
You don't know what you mean to me (Midwest, I see you swingin' right)

East coast, you still shakin' right (uh-uh)
Down South, I see you bouncin' right (ay hey)
West coast, I know you walkin' right, 'cause
You don't know what you mean to me (Midwest, I see you swingin' right)

No matter what I do (woo)
All I think about is you (uh huh)
Even when I'm with my boo
Boy, you know I'm crazy over you (you know I'm, you know I'm)
No matter what I do
All I think about is you
Even when I'm with my boo
You know I'm crazy over you (yeah yeah)

East coast, I know you shakin' right (what)
Down South, I know you bouncin' right (dirty, dirty, now)
West coast, I know you walkin' right
You don't know what you mean to me (Midwest, I see you swingin' right) (uh)

East coast, you still shakin' right (yeah)
Down South, I see you bouncin' right (dirty, dirty)
West coast, I know you walkin' right
You don't know what you mean to me (Midwest, I see you swingin' right)