Actually Romantic

Album

The Life of a Showgirl

Label

Republic Records

Genre

Alternative rock

Composer(s)

Max Martin;Shellback;Taylor Swift

Entered Chart

Oct 18, 2025

Peak Date

Oct 18, 2025

Released

October 3, 2025

Recorded

Studio MXMShellback (Stockholm)

"Actually Romantic" is the closest Taylor Swift has come to a diss track; she's letting a rival know that her attacks aren't bothering her but actually turning her on. She won't name names, but signs point to Swift's fellow pop star Charli XCX as her target. The title doubles as a sly callback to Charli's Brat track "Everything Is Romantic." So, why the beef? Brat includes "Sympathy Is A Knife," a song bristling with insecurity and jealousy toward an unnamed woman. "This one girl taps my insecurities," Charli XCX sings, followed by the pointed, "Don't want to see her backstage at my boyfriend's show." The boyfriend in question? The 1975 drummer George Daniel, whose bandmate, Matty Healy, briefly dated Swift in 2023. Yeah, it doesn't exactly rise to the level of Kendrick Lamar vs. Drake, but Swift has a way of turning criticism into songs. You can hear it on her 2010 track "Mean," and on "Blank Space" from 2014, where she took the "crazy ex-girlfriend" label and spun it into a pop masterpiece. There's a scene in the TV series Mad Men where an underling rips into Don Draper, and he responds by saying, "I don't think about you at all." That's Swift's approach here. "'Actually Romantic' is about realizing that someone else has had a one-sided, adversarial relationship with you that you didn't know about," she told Amazon Music. "You've been living in their head rent-free and you had no idea... How flattering that somebody has made you such a big part of their reality when you didn't even think about this. It's actually pretty romantic if you really think about it." Swift co-wrote and co-produced "Actually Romantic" alongside Max Martin and Shellback and recorded it for her 12th album, The Life of a Showgirl. The song fits into the album's overall theme of Swift embracing her mischievous side while celebrating her current happiness in her engagement to Travis Kelce. Swift and Charli XCX aren't exactly longtime rivals. Charli even opened for Taylor on the 2018 Reputation Tour, but there's a certain poetry in their differing pop philosophies. After all, Charli once said touring with Swift "felt like waving to 5-year-olds," a remark she later softened, blaming it on the fanbase mismatch rather than malice. But for Taylor, who has spent a career reframing perceived slights ("Look What You Made Me Do," anyone?), "Actually Romantic" is less revenge than revelation. In the companion film The Official Release Party of a Showgirl, Swift called the song "a love letter to someone who hates you." "There can be this moment where it's unveiled to you through things they do that are very overt," she mused. "And as I've gotten older, I've just started to be like, 'Oh my God, you did so much with this.' It's flattering." In the clean version, the line "It's kind of making me wet" is replaced with "It's kind of making me sweat."

I heard you call me "Boring Barbie" when the coke's got you brave
High-fived my ex and then you said you're glad he ghosted me
Wrote me a song saying it makes you sick to see my face
Some people might be offended
But it's actually sweet
All the time you've spent on me
It's honestly wild
All the effort you've put in
It's actually romantic
I really gotta hand it to you, ooh
No man has ever loved me like you do
Hadn't thought of you in a long time
But you keep sending me funny valentines
And I know you think it comes off vicious
But it's precious, adorable
Like a toy chihuahua barking at me from a tiny purse
That's how much it hurts
How many times has your boyfriend said
"Why are we always talking 'bout her?"
It's actually sweet
All the time you've spent on me
It's honestly wild
All the effort you've put in
It's actually romantic
I really gotta hand it to you, ooh
No man has ever loved me like you do
You think I'm tacky, baby
Stop talking dirty to me
It sounded nasty but it feels like you're flirting with me
I mind my business, God's my witness
That I don't provoke it
It's kind of making me wet (oh)
'Cause it's actually sweet
All the time you've spent on me
It's honestly lovely
All the effort you've put in
It's actually romantic
Really gotta hand it to you, to you
No man has ever loved me like you do
It's actually romantic
(You've just given me so much attention) (la-la-la-la, romantic)
It's actually romantic
(It's so) shoo-bop-bop, romantic